Like any friendship, your relationship with your body will inevitably have its ups and downs - but that’s okay! Just understand that if you’re going to have to co-exist for the rest of your life, it’s worth trying to maintain a positive relationship.
Treat your body as you would a friend. Try not to say anything nasty about it, forgive its ‘flaws’, acknowledge its wonderful uniqueness and learn to love the things you do for one another.
We are constantly bombarded by the media, and it’s not until you begin to be critical of it that you can fully appreciate how much it can mess with people’s minds. People are mostly passive when consuming media, and when you don’t think properly about it, it’s much more likely to affect you.
Pick up a marker pen, and critique your magazine. Think about things like the choice of models, what they have to say about beauty, what techniques do the adverts use, etc. Consider how parts of the magazine make you feel, why that is the case, and what their motives are for doing it.
Be thoughtful, be eloquent, be angry, be whatever you want. Writing all over the magazine can be extremely useful in organizing your thoughts, and can also be very therapeutic When doing this, you will begin to realize why you have some of the attitudes towards beauty (and other issues) that you do - because the media pushes those ideas onto us.
If you want to, you can take pictures of your defaced magazines and upload them to tumblr. Tag them ‘defaceyourmagazines’ if you want to share them, and take a look at the tag if you want to see other people’s.
Hey anon :)
I’m not entirely sure yet, I hadn’t really thought about it until now. I used up most of my ideas last year, and a lot of the activities were really important. So if I did it again this summer I would probably use a lot of the same activities, with some extra additions. I’d also really like some other people to contribute with their own activity ideas, so feel free to message me on my personal blog if you’d be interested in helping me out with the project.
I’ll have a serious think about it. I do think that we could build an even bigger community this year, but maintaining the blog takes a lot of work, so I’ll have to see. Stay tuned :)
Read them, learn them, live by them.
Love yourself ♥
(commandments found here)
With the help of everything you’ve done so far in the project, make a physical reminder about your journey towards self-love. This could be a notebook, a scrapbook, a poster, a display - whatever you like. You can keep adding to this whenever you want, for the rest of the summer or the rest of your life.
If you have something to look at, to touch, to think about, it can act as a constant reminder as to why you are a wonderful person and should never put yourself down.
Here are some ideas of things you could include:
This is the final Summer of Self Love activity. I hope you’ve had an enjoyable and productive time participating in the project. Remember that you can complete the activities whenever you want, and there are no time restrictions for self-love.
There are a few body-positive blogs about stretch marks. Two I particularly like are:
There are also a lot of submissions in general body-positive or fat-positive blogs that talk about their stretch marks. I list some of my favourite blogs like that here.
I haven’t personally come across any blogs about other skin problems. If any of my followers know of any, please reply to this or send me a message :)
Maybe you could make one? I’m sure it would help a lot of people to become accepting of their skin problems!
Today’s activity is to begin to let go of striving for perfection.
We’re our own harshest critic, and this means that we see our “flaws” as being much more prominent than they actually are. When you couple this with the fact that “perfection” in most situations is often simply impossible to reach, this can begin to cause problems with your self-esteem.
Let go of the idea of perfection, and instead aim to set yourself reachable goals. If you’re bad at something, try to work on accepting that as being a fact of life, rather than a negative thing. Of course you can work on improving yourself, but if you can accept the inevitable fact that there will be things in life that you’re not so good at, your self-esteem won’t take so much of a hit.
The Summer of Self Love giveaway ends tomorrow!
Remember that every relevant post you tag with “Summer of Self Love” counts as an entry no matter how big or small, so get posting whilst you’ve still got some time to enter!
Lots of love <3
Today’s activity is to give meaningful complements to at least five people.
Tell these people what you like about them, but not just with regards to their physical appearance - think more deeply than that. Let them know how you feel about aspects of their personality, the way the act, the things that they’ve done, etc.
It can be daunting to say these things to people, but have courage and do it, you’ll make them feel great and you’ll feel good too. If you can’t find 5 people in real life to complement, take to Tumblr. Your message will make somebody’s day!
Now give yourself one meaningful complement. Write it down and put it somewhere for later. You can look at it next time you’re feeling negative, to remind yourself how great you are.
Looking for the best in people is an amazing quality to have, and when you start to do it with others you can also begin to do it to yourself.
Practise telling yourself that you love yourself. You may not feel it yet, but that’s fine, because soon when you say it, you’ll realise that it’s true.
Go to the mirror. Strip yourself of everything that isn’t you - not just your clothes and makeup, but also all external ideas about beauty, because they’re all fake. Look at yourself properly. Look into your own eyes, and say “I love you”. Tell yourself what it is that you love about yourself. And start to believe it.